Top 3 Tips for Building Self Confidence

March 14, 2016

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We all have some pretty rough days and being comfortable in your own skin doesn’t come easy for everyone. There are times when I’m hard on myself, but I’ve learned a few key habits to help me gain better perspective and feel more confident in who I am. Now that I am in another country, new space in unfamiliar territory and out of my regular routine, those habits are things I constantly refer to and help me be more positive, grounded and more confident.

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Here are three things that helped me gain more self confidence:

1) Dress Your Best

I once saw this saying that said, “Dress as though you were going to meet your worst enemy today” and really liked it. Dressing well is not about trends. It’s about how good and confident you feel when you wear something. You can run into anyone at any time. When you look great, you often leave feeling good about an encounter. The best pick-me-up when you feel bad about yourself, or when nothing seems to fit is to pull your most flattering, killer outfit from the closet and tell yourself that you look good. There’s nothing like a fresh face, a great pair of shoes or a favorite color dress/coat to give you a boost. If you dress well, you will feel it and own every room you’re in.  Giving yourself this boost of confidence can change your attitude and outlook in a very positive manner.

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2) Appreciate & Embrace Your Unique Features

Learning to embrace what you have and appreciate them is so important and not simple for many, but think of it this way: we fall in love with the special characteristics and features of our friends and family because it’s what makes them unique. Perfection is subjective. Being a good person is more important and we don’t spend time with people because they are perfect. We love them because they’re great people to be around and that overall beauty that’s inside and outside always shines through.

3) Be Adaptable and Roll with the Changes that Come Your Way

I remember when I came back from living in Japan for a year, I wasn’t sure if I’d end up finding a good job again in branding and marketing.  I was scared, but I didn’t want to make excuses for not being able to find a good role. I set some goals and pushed myself to achieve them. I wanted a management role by the end of 2 years, so I took an internship, volunteered, went to many events, met tons of people and also took on a few great contract jobs that let me pick up some new skills relevant to those goals. I went beyond what my role required and it helped me build my resume. Most of the time it meant not being able to see my friends on the weekends or be at the events I wanted to attend, but I tried my best to make up for those missed opportunities and ended up achieving all the goals I set for myself within 2 years. If you put your mind to something and go after it, good things will come. I know it is not always easy to get to your ultimate goal. It can take a lot of work and time, but if you tell yourself that your challenges are just bumps in the road and that you can do it, you absolutely will find the strength to. In fact, many entrepreneurs who “fail” multiple times and eventually reach success many years later, usually say that they’ve hit many “bumps on the road” before they reach success.  Being adaptable to these changes and bumps in the road and changing the way you see these challenges can really help you own your self confidence. Your mind has the ability to carry you through so many trials on self image, your relationship with yourself and your own success. If you hit a bump in the road, don’t let it deter you because when you finally reach your goals, whether it’s weight loss, career or relationships, you’ll appreciate and drink in that success so much more. There isn’t really failure-  only tons of learning experiences. Adapt to that bump in the road and forge on. No one is perfect – not even close.

I hope these tips help now or somewhere down the road.  If you enjoyed this post, please comment below.  What are some of your own ways on building self confidence? I’d love to hear!

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Outfit:  Ostrich feather belt from BCBG MaxAzria here.  Shoes from Miu Miu similar here.  Sunglasses from Fendi.  Clutch from ZARA (old). Dress from SheInside here.

Photo credit to my one and only, Rise Again BJJ

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  • alice March 14, 2016 at 10:27 am

    Love these tips! Agree that taking a little extra time to take into consideration of what your wearing can work wonders!

    xo, alice / T Y P E N U

    • miki March 14, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      Thanks, Alice! 🙂 Yes, It can feel so nice when you’re needing that extra boost for the day.
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Deasy Noel March 14, 2016 at 3:17 pm

    Those belt! It adds such a flare to your outfit 🙂 I definitely agree about dressing your best and how it boosts confidence. I’ve never heard of the saying “Dress as though you were going to meet your worst enemy today.” but I love it!

    http://www.deasynoel.com

    • miki March 14, 2016 at 4:25 pm

      Thanks so much, Deasy! 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • natalie March 14, 2016 at 7:19 pm

    so so beautiful! LOVE

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    • miki March 16, 2016 at 1:20 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Carolina Aguirre March 14, 2016 at 7:24 pm

    love the belt ! amazing pictures
    http://www.therunwhy.com/

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 1:18 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Chelsheaflo March 14, 2016 at 8:56 pm

    Thank you for the tips! Oh, and also you look perfect from head to toe, especially the clutch and purple pumps, so adorable 🙂

    xoxo,
    |CHELSHEAFLO|

    http://chelsheaflo.blogspot.co.id/

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Rai March 14, 2016 at 10:29 pm

    You’re so right about loving the different features on our friends and family members and loving them because of their uniqueness, I do this constantly I love the unnatural beauty of other yet I hate it on myself. How strange, need to keep that in mind next time I put down the feature I don’t like about myself.

    I also love that quote about dressing like you would see your enemy haha makes you put in a tad more effort doesn’t it ;P haha
    Beautiful outfit as well! 😀

    Rai | utterardour.blogspot.com

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 1:17 pm

      Thanks Rai. You’re silly. You have a unique beauty and you’re super sweet. 🙂 Gotta love dressing well to save the day! If not, beautiful, glowing skin always does it, too. 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Justina March 16, 2016 at 12:24 am

    Awesome advice Miki! Especially the quote: Dress like you’re going to see you’re worse enemy. The textures in your outfit are gorgeous.

    xoxo Justina | Just In A City
    A SF based fashion + food + travel blog
    http://www.justinacity.com | Instagram

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      Thanks Justina!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Ife's Style Room March 16, 2016 at 8:07 pm

    Love the clutch! great outfit post!
    http://ifesstyleroom.com/4-ways-to-wear-a-faux-fur-stole/

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 11:23 pm

      Thanks Ife! 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Abby March 16, 2016 at 8:36 pm

    I love these tips! Certainly easier said than done! PS – super adore this outfit!

    xo,
    Abby of Life in the Fash Lane

    • miki March 16, 2016 at 11:23 pm

      Thanks! Definitely not easy, but a good habit to remind ourselves when we’re having rough days. 🙂
      xo,
      Miki

  • Bekleveer March 17, 2016 at 1:30 am

    I like your blog, its really dope.
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    If you want, than follow me, and let me know in comments, so I can follow you back with pleasure.
    We can follow each other on Instagram @andjela.dujovic, let me know in the comments so I can follow you back.

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    xoxo

    • miki April 21, 2016 at 1:14 am

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Whit March 18, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    Such a beautiful, inspiring blogpost! It’s all so true, and embracing the changed is one of the hardest parts of “growing up”. Keep up the good work and good vibes babe x

    Love,
    Whit

    http://www.whitneyswonderland.com

    • miki March 20, 2016 at 9:57 pm

      Thanks so much!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Luna March 21, 2016 at 2:18 pm

    WOW! Love this look! Very chic and glam. Rose quartz perfect! *_*
    Luna
    http://www.fashionsnobber.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 2:18 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Jennifer March 21, 2016 at 5:33 pm

    Absolutely adore this outfit! You look gorgeous!!

    xo, Jennifer
    http://www.publicistinpearls.com

    • miki March 21, 2016 at 7:00 pm

      Thanks so much!!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Samantha March 22, 2016 at 6:44 am

    Cute outfit and love your tips!
    ~Samantha
    http://goldcoastgirlblog.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      Thanks so much!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Denise March 22, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Love Miki,

    I am the first time on your blog but your text really blew me away. You speak to me from the soul! Thank you!

    xoxo
    Denise
    http://www.dk-worldoffashion.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:55 pm

      Thanks! So glad you relate.
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Hayle March 22, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this post, thank you so much for sharing!!
    Hayle xx

    http://www.hayleolson.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:50 pm

      Thanks so much Hayle! Glad you enjoyed the post. 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Remi Sabbah March 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    You look super chic darling! I adore your outfit! But you are right self-confidence is the best accessory! <3 xxx
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    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:49 pm

      Thanks! So true!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Konstantina Antoniadou March 23, 2016 at 4:59 am

    I can’t get my eyes off that bag <3
    http://www.kmeetsstyle.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      Thanks. I couldn’t either. I think I snatched it up and took it right to the register!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • yuka March 23, 2016 at 11:56 am

    love everything about this! especially your tips! really great advice.

    http://www.prettyinleather.net

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 1:46 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Morgan March 23, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Wow this outfit looks stunning on you! That belt really makes it stand out. These are all great tips for building confidence, thanks for posting 🙂

    Morgan | http://www.monde-et-mode.com

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 2:02 pm

      Thanks Morgan! 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • SABRINA March 23, 2016 at 1:57 pm

    Love your tips! Love your killer confidence boosting outfit too!

    Sabrina | Gypsy Tan

    • miki March 23, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      Thanks Sabrina! 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

    • miki March 28, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks so much!!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Erica March 25, 2016 at 4:22 am

    This outfit looks stunning on you!! I love all the details and the pictures.
    Thanks for the tips!
    Have a great weekend!
    XO Erica

    • miki March 28, 2016 at 5:10 pm

      Thanks!
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Laura March 25, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    I loved reading your post and I totally agree! Confidence is important.
    I like the quote, it gives a lot of motivation!

    Laura
    http://furiouslychic.blogspot.ch/

    • miki March 28, 2016 at 5:19 pm

      Thanks so much Laura! 🙂
      Xo,
      Miki

  • Alhely March 28, 2016 at 10:22 pm

    Wow! You really dont have an idea how I appreciate your post! Im having a bad moment and definitelly you helped me so much! Also I have to confes that I felt in love with your top is the GORGEOUS! LOVE IT!

    http://www.goodselfie.com.mx

    • miki April 4, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      I’m so glad you relate and that it helped! 🙂 That’s really special. Thanks for visiting!
      Xo,
      Miki